The Sex Effect On Women's Friendships

Casey Wohl’s Sex And The City event tomorrow night starts with a pre-party in the Neiman Marcus Shoe Salon surrounded by hors d’oeuvres and drinks.  Next, the group moves to a private theatre, complete with their own bartender to watch Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte jet off on their all-expenses-paid, luxury vacation to Abu Dhabi. “We timed it perfectly,” laughs Wohl, a 34-year-old Orlando based author.  “They’re marking shoes down for their big summer shoe sale this morning.  They’re doing make-up for everyone. We’ve got a Rearview Artist – I call him a butt artist – and they’re going to try to get some jewelry to raffle off.  We were sold out by the beginning of May.”

Wohl believes she’s the right kind of hostess for a party like this.  She started writing her Girls Get-A-Way Guide series after she got divorced and was fired from her job.  Traveling with her girlfriends was a way to cope with the curve balls life threw at her.

“Personally I think it’s more acceptable to tell your girlfriends everything because of Sex And The City.  I probably wouldn’t have told them as much without it, especially watching someone like Samantha.”

Corrine Ann Williams, a Chicago area media relations specialist agrees, “Back in college and high school when the series was starting, it probably influenced us in ways we didn’t even know."  Williams has reserved VIP seats at Chicago’s Icon Theatre for seven girlfriends aged 25 – 32.  It’s the perfect venue choice since cosmos - the cocktail SATC made famous – are allowed in the theatre’s VIP balcony.

“We’ve been having these monthly girly outings starting with the first Sex And the City movie, two years ago.  Going to have cocktails with the girls and Girls’ Night Out, I don’t know how popular that idea was before,” says Williams.

Deborah Porter, a Las Vegas based entrepreneur, agrees that SATC may have brought the Girl’s Night Out idea into focus but she believes the girlfriend bond has always been prevalent.

“I’m African American and I can remember as a teenager and as a young adult, going to the beauty salons and shops and that’s where the girlfriends hung out,” says the 50-something Porter whose company Creativity Made Fresh organized a Manolo Blahnik fashion show and party for the release of the first film.  This time, four of her girlfriends are getting dolled up to attend opening night with cocktails afterwards.

“We would joke that you could go to any ladies room in a restaurant or bar if you were crying or having trouble with your boyfriend, you could spill your guts and women would rally.  Then when it was all over you would go BTW, `What’s your name?’”

Alison Blackman, who has been dispensing relationship, beauty/fashion and lifestyles advice online for 17 years, believes that SATC is pure fiction, “As I see it, no educated, urban, working woman would be able to invest the time and effort into `girlfriends’ as the fabulous four are portrayed on the screen. If nothing else, children and families interfere. I love the idea, but I think it is mostly fiction.”

What do you think? Has Sex And The City changed the way we look at female friendship?  Also, anyone else with any cool party plans?